What an absurd question. I like both, and I can have both at the same time. So why do I have to pick?
If you’re literally talking about pies or candles, then it’s true that you can have both. What I’m talking about is a mindset of scarcity or a mindset of abundance.
When you have a pie, there is only so much to go around. No matter how small you slice the pie, eventually you run out of pie. The smaller the slices, the less satisfied an individual is but the more people are served. I see our nation’s dependence on government programs and benefits as a pie problem.
If you see the world as a zero-sum game, meaning that there is only so much of a resource or asset to go around, you prefer pie. You believe that when someone has something that you can’t have it, and whatever you have someone else cannot have. A spirit of jealousy, envy, and selfishness travels with pie people because there’s this perception that nothing more can be had without taking from another. This is the mindset of scarcity.
Candles, however, are much different in nature than pies. When you light a candle, you can use the flame from that candle to light as many more candles as you’d like without taking away from your candle. The same flame you had in the beginning will still be there after all of the other candles are lit, still as strong and capable of lighting more candles as it was at the start.
When you think in terms of the candle, you believe in the abundance mindset. You begin to see things differently and see opportunity instead of roadblocks. When someone opens a successful business, you might think of a business or opportunity to complement that business instead of packing up and leaving town. You might even look for opportunities to serve that business and make them even better than ever. In your mind, the opening of the business is not the last piece of the pie; instead, it is the lighting of one big candle.
In our homes, what do we teach our kids? Do we see the nightly news and events of our day as another reason to give up, to react in fear, or to protect the few precious assets that we’ve accumulated? Or do we talk about the excitement that comes with something new? When we talk to our kids about their hopes and dreams, are we encouraging them to pursue those or telling them why they need to think differently?
We, and our children, all have unique lights to share with the world. In The Holy Bible in Matthew chapter 5, Jesus reminds us that we are the light of the world and that we are to let that light shine before others. Don’t hide your light from others or extinguish the flame burning inside your child with your words and attitude.
If you think that you’re defeated and that things never go your way, then that’s exactly what you’ll get. You might as well sit down and eat as much of the pie as you can. But if you’ll see yourself as someone who can benefit others and has a lot to give, then you’ll begin to see opportunities all around you. Rabbi Daniel Lapin illustrates this principle throughout his book “Thou Shall Prosper.”
And, as you become someone who gives more than they take, then more will come back to you. It’s the principle that Zig Ziglar built his life upon – you can have all that you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.
Henry Ford once said “If you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.”
Maybe it’s time to go on a diet and put the pie away.
Application Question – How can I change my outlook to see opportunity over obstacles? Where are the pies in my life and how can those become candles? What would others say my viewpoint is on this topic?
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